I help women challenge and rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.
I have no idea what I’m doing.
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Hey Reader, Fourteen years ago, I walked into a dorm room and accidentally learned a lesson I didn’t know I needed yet. I had no idea what I was doing in dating. Fast-forward a few years, a futon, a hard “no,” a lost shoe (long story), and a relationship that grew despite any form of certainty. Here’s what I’ve learned, and what I still believe deeply: Love doesn’t thrive on having it all figured out. You don’t really know the person across from you. But that's okay. When you stop pretending you know what you’re doing, you give yourself space to ask better questions. I wrote a longer reflection about this - about dating, curiosity, and why “not knowing” might be the healthiest place to start. If you want to read it, it’s here: No instructions. Love, |
Same New Love | Dating & Relationships
I help women challenge and rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.
Hi love, A lot of relationship conflict (especially when it escalates) isn’t just about the issue itself. It’s also about: not feeling heard, feeling interrupted, getting defensive, poor timing, harsh tone, or trying to solve a problem when someone simply wanted understanding first. Most people were never really taught how to have difficult conversations in a healthy way. So I put together a new blog post with 12 relationship rules that can completely change the way conflict feels, making...
Hey Reader, I’m opening up a waitlist for something I’ve been building behind the scenes: Dating Redefined (The 5-Week Group Program). This isn’t starting right away. We’re looking at a July-ish kickoff, and I’m being intentional about who joins. People who are ready to not only question the patterns they've been following…The rules they've been unconsciously playing by…And the ways they've been trying so hard to get it “right” (only to end up feeling more confused, more drained, or more...
Hi Reader, I just published a new post that I’m honestly really proud of. It’s called: Dating Advice from a 12-Year Relationship (If I Had to Start Over, I'd Do This...) It includes 13 pieces of dating advice from the perspective of my 12-year relationship (plus 6 bonus pieces from my husband). And here's the thing: I know the immediate pushback people often have when someone in a long-term relationship talks about dating is:“But dating is so different now.” And honestly? They’re right. Apps,...