I help women challenge and rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.
How to spot emotional availability (Fast)
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Hi Reader, If you’ve ever been on a date, there’s a 99.9% chance you’ve asked a question. Maybe even two or three. 😉 Questions are, of course, a key part of dating. But what you ask matters more than you might think. There are the usual small-talk questions (“What do you do for work?” “Where are you from?”). However, those rarely tell you much about a person’s character or emotional availability. Instead, I want you to try what I call strategic questions: the subtle, revealing ones that give you a true glimpse into someone’s values, self-awareness, and openness to connection. I just wrote a new article breaking this down, including:
👉 Read the full article here: 3 Simple Questions to Weed Out the Fboys on Your Next Date - Same New Love The best part? These questions don’t feel forced or heavy: they actually keep the conversation englightening and engaging while showing you exactly who’s sitting across from you. When you date this way, instead of just collecting cute stories, you'll also be collecting evidence of compatibility. Love, Imani P.S. The right person will love going deeper with you. The wrong one? They’ll reveal themselves quickly: which is actually a win. 🙌 |
Same New Love | Dating & Relationships
I help women challenge and rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.
Hi Reader, I just published a new post that I’m honestly really proud of. It’s called: Dating Advice from a 12-Year Relationship (If I Had to Start Over, I'd Do This...) It includes 13 pieces of dating advice from the perspective of my 12-year relationship (plus 6 bonus pieces from my husband). And here's the thing: I know the immediate pushback people often have when someone in a long-term relationship talks about dating is:“But dating is so different now.” And honestly? They’re right. Apps,...
Hey Reader, Fourteen years ago, I walked into a dorm room and accidentally learned a lesson I didn’t know I needed yet. I had no idea what I was doing in dating.I was hurt. I was embarrassed. I was afraid I’d never feel “that kind” of connection again. Fast-forward a few years, a futon, a hard “no,” a lost shoe (long story), and a relationship that grew despite any form of certainty. Here’s what I’ve learned, and what I still believe deeply: Love doesn’t thrive on having it all figured out.It...
Hey Reader, What do you want? Someone who loves you for exactly who you are. And then what do you do? Act nothing like yourself. And then what do you get? Someone who thinks they know you. And then how do you feel? Not great, because they don’t actually know you. And then what do you do? Usually, end the relationship. And then who do you blame? Maybe them, maybe yourself. And then what do you do next?… If this cycle sounds familiar, you’re probably stuck in people-pleasing mode: the sneaky...